Death

Dababydoll,

loosing someone takes time to get over and adjust, there is no time scale. I lost my mum at aged 54 and I was 19 when I lost my dad..you find yourself looking in crowds for that person, every person looks familiar until they turn round,you think you hear them talkign to you.

Time helps, memeories should never go away. I often find myslef out on a shopping spree, and I will pick soemthign up and smile and think oh yes my mum would like that colour, or my dad would say "women never dressed like that in my day".. and in my thoughts i still "talk" to them, so those I have lost are still there...

make time to have periods to reflect, keep good memories a life, perhaps a small box with nick nacks in that remind you of that peson. I have even written a letter to them, write down what you think. Dont remove familiar photos of your grandmother.

There are no easy answers to missing and grieving and sometimes the things I have suggested work for others they need more support from a councellor.

You keep missing here but put the situation where it is, she is not around in person but never far away in spirit.

karen x

Pure Maiden,

I am so sorry to hear your story, my mother passed away when I was 13 due to breast cancer, i wonder sometimes if it was that that pulled me towards nursing .I buried my grief for years. I wish now I had had counselling.

My thoughts are with you

Ok just looking back on posts and I feel different today, but my mood flips every day and something trivial like an advert on the tv can change all that or a post here on the forum!

All I can add at this stage is things do get better as Karen says when time is involved, but time take a bloody long time to make things better!! I hate time as it takes too long!

lovely poem